Chinese Visiting Etiquette
Chinese people are hospitable (热情好客的) and friendly. If you are invited or wish to pay a visit to a Chinese family, there are some formalities that you need to follow.Make an appointment in advance and then you should be punctual (守时的) for it. If you are late or have to cancel the appointment, you need to make an apology to the host and give reasons why you have to do this.
Be sure to either accept or decline it when you receive an invitation. If you must decline it, it is important to give a specific reason. If you are vague (含糊不清的), the host may think you are not interested in having a relationship with him or her.
Choose an appropriate time to have the visit. It’s not polite to visit others during their dining or resting time because it may bring trouble or inconvenience to the host. The best time is the period after noon or supper. Generally, don’t stay more than an hour unless your are asked to stay longer.
Bring some gifts as a polite gesture. The gift may or may not be opened in front of you. You can suggest the gift be opened in your presence but don’t push the issue.
Follow the lead of the host and serve yourself. Eat when the host eats. Be sure to eat enough food to show you are enjoying it but don’t eat the last bit of any dish. If you fi nish off any dish, it will signal that the host hasn’t prepared enough food. Leaving a small amount of food is good manners.
Exercise
Work in pairs. Discuss what you’ll do when you pay a visit to your classmate’s home